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LIFE // But, My Friends Have Kids?! ...


When you're in school you create this future master life plan in your head that you'll be getting married, having kids, having loads of money, basically you create an idea of a life you'd like to have. And as you are so small, you think achieving all this by the age of 21 years will be more than realistic as it is so many years away from where you are in that moment.

Well, it really doesn't quite work out like that. And the scariest bit is that, now at aged 22, I still have this weird life plan. I just keep pushing it back a few years. And adding and taking away goals from the list. Basically, what I'm trying to tell you, is that I'm having a post-uni life crisis.

The thing that really made my notice this is that, all of sudden, my Facebook time line has filled up with baby photos. And not just anyone's babies, no sir, they are photographs of babies belonging to people I went to school with. My friends. And I'm still here binging on boxes of jelly babies and watching RuPaul's Drag Race on Netflix until 3AM. Oops.

This means that I am at an age where having children is normal. People my age are starting families and having babies yet I still feel like a kid. I can't imagine having a child but I'm living an adult life now so could potentially support another life if I decided it was for me (gulp). If everyone else is doing it then why am I not?

Well, the truth is I'm just not ready to give up my binge-eating-jelly-baby lifestyle up. I haven't found a career yet, which is number one priority for me at the moment. I like my job quite a lot and I'm comfortable there so I'd quite like to use this time to save for a car and move out of my parents' house. It is hard not to fall into the 'life crisis' trap of comparing yourself to your peers when everyone shares so much of their lives over social media. I often question where I'm going with life when so many other my age appear to have such a good grasp on their own lives.

Yes, my friends do have kids but I shouldn't let that have any influence over my own lifestyle. Having children does not make you a better or worse person than anyone else your age. It doesn't mean that you have your life planned out, it just means in that moment of life you know exactly what you want and, just because you're not doing the same, doesn't mean you're wasting your life. You can still live out your childhood 'life plan', each person has their own ideas of what goals they want in life and sometimes it's best to ignore what everyone else is doing and focus on yourself. I know I'll be trying to use this mentality to get myself out of this post-uni life crisis at the moment haha!

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  1. Never feel like you have to conform.. I am on the other end of the scale (in a way) I'm 25 and I got married last June, now everyones asking us when we are going to have babies? It's like, please leave us alone and let us just enjoy our life! Everything will come for both us eventually :)
    Rebecca xxx
    www.queenbeady.com

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    1. Exactly!! People focus too much on what others are doing instead of just doing what's right for them! Glad you're enjoying your lives together doing as you wish :) xxx

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  2. oooh I have been where you are right now...still kind of am at 28. I will tell you one thing though, being married with children doesn't mean you have your life together nor does it mean that you don't. Having your life together and success mean different things to different people. So if career is your number one priority then focus on that!
    xo
    The Fashionista Bubble

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    1. Yeah, I totally agree! For me, at the moment anyway, I want to focus on my job and getting myself sorted before I have kids. It's different for every single person xxx

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  3. You've basically written how I feel! So many people having babies but all I want is jelly ones right now haha!

    We're all individuals and all want different things at different times - life would be boring if we stayed in the exact same life plan :)

    You'll know when the time is right, for now I say, have fun and eat tons of jelly babies! I'll be doing the same!

    Hazel xx

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    1. Woohoo for jelly baby eaters haha! I think it's so easy to compare yourself to others with it being shoved in your face via social media all the time but, like you say, we're all different :) xxx

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